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Your post, and to Iliana as well
Written by: Lady Ainia Shiva, the Eye of Neraeos
Date: Wednesday, March 22nd, 2006
Addressed to: Das Rousseau
Das,
Personally I am not in the mood to get into the specifics of when we
were married over 60 years ago. You know why we divorced - there was no
affair, but it makes you feel better to make it up and place the blame
elsewhere instead of on the true problem (your actions). If you really
want to split hairs on relationships post-us, you got engaged to Valia
very quickly after we divorced, where Cronus and I did not have any sort
of relationship for years after that. But I let that go, I thought you
did too when you rushed off with that young lady.
Again, it was 60 years ago. You have a fantastic woman in Tekla, why
don't you be happy with her and not continue to hold resentment from 6
decades past? It surely cannot be healthy, and is not fair to her.
You are correct in I have been married a few times. I do try to make
light of it a bit as I have encountered less than stellar luck in my
personal life. Laughing is better than getting myself down over it, no?
Try to find the positive in even the worst situations. Considering I
married the same man 3 of those 5 times, I would like to think I did try
to work on things with the one I did feel I would spend my days with.
But does that really need to be explained or justified?
As far as my marriage to Horatio, if you think that we divorced because
of recent events and my supposed 'affair' with a gay man, then perhaps
you should reconsider who your sources of information are, and
contemplate for a moment what sort of relationship a straight woman and
a gay man might have. I can guarantee you, the LAST thing it is, is
physical.
I shall not air any specifics of my marriage here as I do respect
Horatio more than that, though I know you could not have heard anything
from him personally about it as he has not set foot in Sapience in over
20 years; though he has had ways of contacting me and has in fact taken
advantage of those so it has been less time since I heard from him.
There is an old saying, 'To ASSUME makes an ASS out of U and ME'.
Remember that, and assume nothing about what our relationship may or may
not have been, what has transpired, and what each party knows.
I agree with you completely that one can be judged by their behaviour.
My personal life has always been placed on the back-burner before other
things such as House and Village and Order, so people can in fact judge
me by the way I have been consistently in those organisations for many
years. And if they choose to judge me on my personal life, that is their
choice of course - but I have made it a point to keep 'work' and
personal life separate, for this very reason, so any opinions on my
personal life do not have bearing on the work I do to the organisations
I serve, and vice versa. And you, sir, have also been judged by your
actions over the years. But I think that is a whole other conversation,
and one I do not have the time nor desire to get into.
I was considering ignoring your post as really it is full of nothing
more than untruths and unnecessary personal insults. The only reason I
decided to respond is I was concerned about your years upon years of
this bitterness you hold and cannot let go of. Seriously, let it go.
Now, if you will excuse me, I will now go back to more important things,
like working on saving my friend's marriage.
Oh, and to Iliana...the only response I have to your post is: see above.
-Ainia Shiva
Penned by my hand on the 13th of Scarlatan, in the year 417 AF.
Your post, and to Iliana as well
Written by: Lady Ainia Shiva, the Eye of Neraeos
Date: Wednesday, March 22nd, 2006
Addressed to: Das Rousseau
Das,
Personally I am not in the mood to get into the specifics of when we
were married over 60 years ago. You know why we divorced - there was no
affair, but it makes you feel better to make it up and place the blame
elsewhere instead of on the true problem (your actions). If you really
want to split hairs on relationships post-us, you got engaged to Valia
very quickly after we divorced, where Cronus and I did not have any sort
of relationship for years after that. But I let that go, I thought you
did too when you rushed off with that young lady.
Again, it was 60 years ago. You have a fantastic woman in Tekla, why
don't you be happy with her and not continue to hold resentment from 6
decades past? It surely cannot be healthy, and is not fair to her.
You are correct in I have been married a few times. I do try to make
light of it a bit as I have encountered less than stellar luck in my
personal life. Laughing is better than getting myself down over it, no?
Try to find the positive in even the worst situations. Considering I
married the same man 3 of those 5 times, I would like to think I did try
to work on things with the one I did feel I would spend my days with.
But does that really need to be explained or justified?
As far as my marriage to Horatio, if you think that we divorced because
of recent events and my supposed 'affair' with a gay man, then perhaps
you should reconsider who your sources of information are, and
contemplate for a moment what sort of relationship a straight woman and
a gay man might have. I can guarantee you, the LAST thing it is, is
physical.
I shall not air any specifics of my marriage here as I do respect
Horatio more than that, though I know you could not have heard anything
from him personally about it as he has not set foot in Sapience in over
20 years; though he has had ways of contacting me and has in fact taken
advantage of those so it has been less time since I heard from him.
There is an old saying, 'To ASSUME makes an ASS out of U and ME'.
Remember that, and assume nothing about what our relationship may or may
not have been, what has transpired, and what each party knows.
I agree with you completely that one can be judged by their behaviour.
My personal life has always been placed on the back-burner before other
things such as House and Village and Order, so people can in fact judge
me by the way I have been consistently in those organisations for many
years. And if they choose to judge me on my personal life, that is their
choice of course - but I have made it a point to keep 'work' and
personal life separate, for this very reason, so any opinions on my
personal life do not have bearing on the work I do to the organisations
I serve, and vice versa. And you, sir, have also been judged by your
actions over the years. But I think that is a whole other conversation,
and one I do not have the time nor desire to get into.
I was considering ignoring your post as really it is full of nothing
more than untruths and unnecessary personal insults. The only reason I
decided to respond is I was concerned about your years upon years of
this bitterness you hold and cannot let go of. Seriously, let it go.
Now, if you will excuse me, I will now go back to more important things,
like working on saving my friend's marriage.
Oh, and to Iliana...the only response I have to your post is: see above.
-Ainia Shiva
Penned by my hand on the 13th of Scarlatan, in the year 417 AF.